Thursday, 9 May 2013
In Love With Him But He is Taken
Is it safe to say that every woman has been in a situation where she's in love with a man who is taken? Not necessarily a married man, a guy who has a girlfriend is also under this category.. I think its not safe to say Yes, but a lot of women have found themselves in this situation... I've been there... We'll get to my story later. Lol
It is not a good feeling, it can be very devastating wanting someone you know you may never have but the truth is, there's almost nothing you can do about it. The only time you get to smile about it is when you're with him, then all your worries have gone to sleep. You get to stand close to him, maybe hold his hands briefly, hug him twice (hi and bye), look at him laugh/smile... When those times come you cherish it with all your heart. Now this is for women who probably haven't told the guy they are in love with him. What about the guys who know you're in love with them? Some guys are decent enough to let you know that they have a woman and nothing will ever happen between you two. Never condemn such guys, though the truth maybe bitter, its better they were honest with you. Some guys tell you they have a woman but they won't stop or block the chances of having an affair with you.. Never condemn such guys either because the fact is they told you the truth, you decided to let the affair happen so if there ever comes a time when he says he's done with the affair, don't go saying he broke your heart, remember he was never your to begin with.. Finally, we have the guys who don't say anything about their women at home... Now those are the types you condemn and curse with all your heart... Just kidding, don't go cursing people please, leave the judgement to God.
What do you do when you find yourself falling for a man who is taken? I don't have the answers to this question because the truth is, you can't help who you fall in love with, the love of your life might just be a married man. What do you do when you find yourself falling in love with and dating a man that is taken? I guess the best advice I can give is telling you not to start the affair but who am i kidding, we all end up doing what we really want to do and besides that advice is not practical for all women.
My case was pretty different, he was mine but we called it off coz he had to leave the country and he was honest enough to let me know from the beginning that he doesn't do long distance relationships. I fell in love with him before he had a girlfriend later on (by the way they are not together anymore *files nails with a smirk on*.. Lol). My first love, it was hard, and then about 3 years later I got to live in the same country with him.. Now that was pretty tough, we had fights upon fights upon fights... It took me 8 good years to get it into my head that me and him will never happen again.. We're like best friends from across the ocean now, lol.
So I know how it feels. I will say this, don't push being with him coz I did that and it got me nowhere. If you're not friends with him, let it remain that way, nothing is wrong in letting him notice you, but that still doesn't change the fact that he's taken. Ask yourself if you're ready to be close to him when you know you might not have him the way you want. But If you're friends with him and haven't told him how you feel, Don't!! Chances are he already knows (if he's not stupid). Maybe he's enjoying it or might feel guilty or maybe he's taking his time to figure it out. The fact is once he knows, there's a very slim chance that you both will remain friends. There's 2 things to do here... Walk away or just be friends. Some don't have the strength to hold on to friendship when they don't get love back, others do... I got love back but not the way I wanted it to be, I was strong enough to just be friends because I'd rather have him in my life as a good friend than not have him in my life at all.
If you have been in a similar situation, share your thoughts, someone out there might just be going through the same thing now and has no idea what to do.
Posted by Unknown at 15:31